Be happy for no reason at all.

Today I learnt that I should be happy for no reason at all and that happiness for a reason is just another form of misery. This is so simple and yet so profound. Let's explore it a little further. Ancient wisdom traditions have long taught that happiness is found within and not in external objects or circumstances. But for the average modern mind this may sound extremely clichéd, but let me unpack this for you and its power will be revealed. Not only will its power be revealed, but it will show that the vast majority of earth's population has it all completely backwards!

Let's start with a few examples that most are familiar with, how many of the following can you apply to yourself or can you see in others?

If I can just meet the right person, then I'll be happy.
If I can just lose twenty pounds, then I'll be happy.
If I can just get that promotion, then I'll be happy.
If I can just get that Mercedes, then I'll be happy.
If I can just have an active sex life, then I'll be happy.
If I can just ... fill in the blank yourself.

Happiness for a reason is just another form of misery.

If your happiness is bound up in and dependant on external circumstances and objects, that makes it completely vulnerable and exposed to the taking away of those objects or circumstances. Right from the outset, this creates anxiety because subconsciously you know that the object or circumstance of "happiness" can be taken away from you at any time. It is completely unstable and you are relying upon other people and circumstances etc for your happiness. It is unsustainable as other people need to be mind readers (which they're not) to know what truly makes you happy, and besides, it's not really their job to make you happy and they will inevitably disappoint you even if not deliberately. If your happiness is dependant on objects, then you are forced to keep consuming, because as we all know that new car only makes you happy for two weeks.

Happiness for no reason at all.

Using some of the examples above, let me show most people have it backwards.

 

Using the first example, "if I can just meet the right person, then I'll be happy."

 

If you're happy for no reason at all, then you're much more likely to give off a completely different energy and vibe, making it much more likely that you'll meet someone suitable and someone who resonates with your energy. You are also now emotionally free and not dependant on the whims of other people for your happiness.

 

If you're in the backwards mode, as most people are, then you're likely to come across as needy and the energy you resonate will attract unsuitable people. The relationship will not last and you're stuck in a loop going from one relationship to the next or no relationship at all.

 

Let's try the next example, "If I can just lose 20 pounds, then I'll be happy.

 

If you're happy for no reason at all, you are far less likely to "comfort eat" or binge eat and weight loss will be automatic.

 

I accept that it may all sound over simplistic and easier said than done, but with practice a new mind set can be developed and new habits of thinking developed. 

 

Finally I would like to credit Deepak Chopra for this wisdom.